The Week Ahead....

It is going to be a busy week ahead.... J is out of town tomorrow but will be home late, late, tomorrow. He has a lot of papers that are due and he has asked me to proof them. It is also the last week of the 6 weeks which means, T will have projects due as well. Just a sample of our schedule....

• Go to work early, to get home early for T
• J gets home at 11pm
• Read papers for J, help with edits
• Finish cleaning bathroom and prepare for J's party
• Help T with homework and preparing for tests
• J has 2 doctor appts - and then he works
• Depending on results will determine where we go from here...IF related.
• J has a final presentation in one class on Tuesday and a final in another on Sat.
• T has is final awards ceremony on Friday
• J leaves late on Saturday for military duty, oh joy!

It is so busy. But the semester is almost over for both my boys... just a little bit more and then we can all breath a sigh of relief.

Big headed people and other annoying things.

This week has been an exercise in stupid people....

1. Co worker - "Well, if you know so much, why don't you share with us?" Me: Well, you approved the eLearning discuss this and unsaid "And since you approved it, don't you think you might have actually watched IT?" But I restrained myself.

2. Judge - Forgot to rule on a couple of motions. Hello! Dumba$$.

3. Head trainer to DH: Well, Credentialing organization takes default on payments very seriously. You defaulted and I will have your card pulled, your boss notified and your record updated.

Note to large headed trainer - That is called job threatening. As much as you don't think it is, it is. Oh, and the Credentialing organization has NO policy such as default on payments. Thankyouverymuch. One pissed off wife made a call to said Credentialing organization and they are making a phone call to your boss to inform your lovely self absorbed self that you are WRONG.

4. HR people at unknown place. Um, federal law is just that FEDERAL. You cant make up policies that are not in tune with it. There is a this little itty bitty thing called enforcement. Get a grip and get over it.

5. 2nd job people - I think you are interfering with my ability to conceive. If this continues, I may just have to let you know about that and see if we can work out alternative options. Like it takes 2 and it cant happen when one is not available - Get it? Good. Glad we got that settled.

6. Octuplet Mom - um, Student Loans aren't enough to pay all your bills. Get a job. Stop having kids and stop making people believe that IVF is oh, so easy.

7. My body. Please decide to be normal. Just until I get KU. Then ya know, do whatever, just be normal. 28 days cycles, would be great. Maybe through in a little ovulation every 15 or so days in 28. Thanks. Glad we got that all worked out.

8. Oh yeah, body... losing weight and then gaining it back and then losing it again. Not cool. Knock it off and keep it off. Got it? Thankyou.

Rant over. Now back to your regularly scheduled programming.

Happy New Year -2008

Good bye to the old 2007 and Welcome to 2008!

I look forward to having a good year filled with new beginnings, happy endings and growth - growth for my family, growth for myself in my job and life, growth for J is his education and job, health for my boxers and safety and mental well being for T.

I have a couple of goals this year and Yes, they are on my 101 list... I would like to loose weight and be more active in my daily life and community.

I hope everyone had a safe and fun filled evening! Here, my dear friends is to 2008!!

End of a Long Week

Well, it is finally the end of a long year and a long week. Update on my stepson - He is back at home with us and is adjusting. We are working on getting back into a groove, trying to figure out what we are doing with school, clothes shopping and just trying to get back into family mode.

I am sure this is still part of the honeymoon and the teenager I know and love will show himself shortly :)

So, Jeanie asked me about my 1001 goals. Well, I am working on them. I have about 75 of them and need to finish the list and then to post it. It just seems that life is getting in the way but I need to incorporate life into my goals.

The issues with parental kidnapping are so hard on everyone concerned. As much as I dont like what she did, I have to live with it, clean it up and deal with the after effects. I am also sure that she is hurting in all of this but she needs to get help and not involve her child in her issues. I am sure as a noncustodial mother, it is hard. I know several mothers who are noncustodial but I dont think any of them would go to the lengths that she did. Not a one of them would keep a child out of school or blame them for thier actions.

There are also issues with how the system addresses situations like this. In our case, everyone seemed to pass the buck - even the man in the robe. I want to do something to help other people in this situation. No one should have to go through this kind of stuff with parents who believe they are above the law.

I am so ready for 2008 to be a much better year for my entire family.

Christmas Eve and Life's troubles

Here I sit with my husband, my stepdaughter, my inlaws and my nephews waiting for Jolly Ol St. Nick to make an appearance. The kids are in bed and the adults are all shopped, wrapped and ready for it to be over! This week has been very hectic so just to give you a short recap -

Before I give the recap, some of what I am going to say is going to be about an ongoing saga. I want to thank one of my dear friends Jeanie for encouraging me to blog about it. I will likely do more of this in the future as I need to vent and form some sort of action to prevent this from happening to other custodial parents.

• M-T - I was traveling and J was working
• W - We both worked in town
• Thursday - I worked and he prepared for our trip to Cleveland
• Friday - We went to S school to see her sing Christmas Carols, then on to T's court appearance and then finally out to do some more shopping.
• Saturday - Christmas Party and pick up Nephews
• Sunday - Relax!
• Monday - attempt to pick up T but no dice and he spends the holiday in Juvie

Now, you may be wondering what is going on with my stepson, T. He is supposed to be with us however his mother has failed to send him to us. She has parentally kidnapped him or at least that is the term that is supposed to be used. The Judge instead of doing something like in August or September of this year to get him back to us, waited until Christmas. And because it is the Christmas season told us that we couldnt have him on Friday that he needed to be able to see his mother for the holiday and we would get him Monday.

Well, come today, he decided that he would much rather spend the time in Juvenile since on Friday he was adjudicated a unruly child. T and his mother both feel that the longer he stays here the more likely the Judge is to just give in. Well, I can tell you that there is a reason that she lost custody and I dont see her getting it back. In the meantime, we have a child who is not in school and who has flunked the 9th grade. He has been taught how to use the system for what he wants despite the Judge telling him that he was being manipulative. Yes, the Judge said he was being manipulative but still decided to let him stay with the bad parent. Now, what does that teach the child? NOTHING!

So, we sit here - watching our 15 year old screw his life up and a Judge that sits here and allows it. T's mother and T have no respect for the Judge - Gee, would it be that the Judge hasnt found the time to RULE on over 31 motions for contempt and other failures since 2001 against her?

Now, that is the bad that is going on right now. The good is that my stepdaughter is here! She has been such a joy to have around and I know that one day the sweet angel that she is will grow and mutate into a teenager - ACK! If we could only keep her sweet....

On the home front in Texas, there are changes abounding! I cant go into all of them just yet but lets sum it up that 2008 is going to be a great year.

Merry Christmas to everyone!